June 8, 2006
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Rant. Rant. Rant. Rant.
Good, now that I have that out of my system maybe I can get on to more productive things.
The better half and I went and saw “The Break Up” last Friday. Aside from the language and inappropriate situations, there were some pretty good lessons to be learned. There is a scene where Jennifer Aniston is wanting Vince Vaughn to help her with the dishes after an entertaining their friends in their apartment. Jennifer had cooked dinner, cleaned up the apartment and served everyone the entire night and just wanted a little help cleaning up. Vince flopped his shoes off in the floor and proceed to watch TV while she went back to work on the apartment. She asks him to help her with the dishes and after a banter back and forth, he relents and concedes to help her out. She then states that she does not want his help. He is puzzled because he has conceded to help her out and now she doesn’t want his help. Here is where the lesson comes in, she says, “I want you to want to help me!”. He cannot understand how anyone could want to help with the dishes and is clueless why she gets upset when he says he really does not want to help but has consented to do so because she asked.
That line is what made the movie, “I want you to want to help”. This makes her reflect on how she has catered to his every whim since they got together.
Later in the movie one of Vince’s friends tells him that he only does what he wants and expects everyone else to do the same. The friend is a Red Sox fan and Vince is a Cubs fan. The friend asks him if they have ever gone to a Sox game when they weren’t playing the Cubs. He is convicted by the words from his friend and that is all I will say about that so if you haven’t seen the movie you can still enjoy it.
How is it that someone can live their life oblivious to the fact that they get everything the way they want and only the way they want it without ever thinking of what others may want? The sad thing about the movie is that there are “Vinces” all around us and we don’t have the guts to tell them so.
Maybe I wasn’t actually through with the ranting.
Comments (2)
That movie oddly enough has alot of good little relationship tidbits in it. I have a husband that considers dishes to be “theraputic” for some odd reason. I think we all have a few Vince like qualities. I know that often times I assume that I can do things right and that obviously since I am doing something right, then no one else in the world can do it right.
You definitely are not a “Vince” – that’s for sure…